Wednesday, 6 September 2017

Awakening

So.... Hello blog old friend. I miss you.  Today I went to Kemaman. Just like any other work related trips, it will usually be the hurried I-really-need-to-be-in-the-van feel, then the laid back breakfast (gotta lay off the carbs!) and a good post prandial sleep before starting actual work.  But today.. I was feeling melancholic, not least because somehow I got Lifehouse's No Name Face on my Spotify. Their songs reminded me of medical school, I would listen to their songs almost every day!

So anywho..I was reminded of my blog... I miss you old pal. I miss writing, I miss my abstract self. I haven't written anything in ages. Work related pieces not included of course. I need to start writing again. I need to start speaking in English again. I hate how I sound when I speak Terengganu dialect. Not being snobbish or anything of course but I just hate it!

The kids are driving me crazy. I love them to bits but they are draining my identity bit by bit. So enough about them for now.

I've been thinking today, how I've grown up over the past years. Reading my previous post, I was talking about how I need a backbone..oh actually I do have a backbone now! I no longer have the need to please everyone, I know exactly what I want or don't want and I know how to get them. I am now able to hold my tounge ( for the most parts) and say what needs to be said at the most appropriate time. For that I am ever so thankful dear Lord. There are so many things in life that I need to be grateful for and I have not done enough to show my gratitude.

I am not complaining..I just feel... incredibly bored with my workplace. I need a place to spread my wings. I cannot stay here anymore. My mind is slowly becoming small and meek. May Allah ease..

I have deleted facebook and instagram apps from my phone..and added Bayyinah TV app.. hopefully this will reflect my aspiration to be a student of the Quran and not a student of STUPID UNFILTERED THOUGHT BROADCASTING DISEASE that is quickly happening in our society right now. Everyone wants to talk but not all opinions are necessary. Not all opinions are bright. In fact most of them are ..dull. Just like mine. But it's okay because this is my blog so I can thought broadcast anytime I want haha.

Lacking inspiration...  Lacking motivation (No, that's not true, I am very motivated to free myself!).. Lacking guidance.... Hate the system.

FOR THAT IDIOT WHO HAS DONE ME WRONG IN 2015 and 2016 I HAVE FINALLY FORGIVEN YOU. YOU ARE STILL A SELF RIGHTEOUS JERK BUT YOU ARE CLEAN IN MY BOOK. NOW PLEASE GO AWAY.

Good night blog.. hope to see you soon and not in a few years time!!

Steel magnolias are made of steel,
Yet your soil is a prickly wool,
Tainting her pretty talons,
Her razor eyes brightly falter.

Gooooooooodnight old friend if I can give you a hug I would.


Tuesday, 1 March 2016

when i am with you i am high

Wow. Last post before sakinah was born. Now she is almost two years old. what have i achieved? nothing.

I miss the old me. The old melancholic nostalgic sensitive me. Now i am just trudging on with work and life. Not complaining though. I have great family members, a wonderful husband and an amazing toddler. I am really thankful for all the blessings. but i still miss home. HOME. home as in home in malacca with mama around. again chasing a stupid mirage. i really have to buck up.

There are a lot of amazingly annoying people at work. I wonder why on earth am i still there.

I am scared shitless everytime i operate on people. i should quit ASAP.

miles and miles of bad decision. typical me.
no back bone. must grow one soon.
She has mama's melancholy

Sunday, 24 November 2013

when the lost is more than the gain

this constant wave of vomit at the back of my throat is killin' me.

have been holding this title in front of my name for a year now... conclusion?

you give and give and give...

and lose so much of yourself in the process...

no more heads against the skies..

no more candy clouds on top of trees...

just very real physical pain no amount of medicine is going to heal...

and emotional burden no donkeys in this world can help me carry...

but it's alright because the baby's going to come in May and maybe this annoying tickle at the back of my throat will stop.

i miss bristol. i miss my mother. heck i miss the old me. I am getting way too old and cynical for my own good.

i am thankful nevertheless.

Sunday, 14 October 2012

Hot Hot Air

My poems are everywhere! I better immortalized (!!) them electronically.

Hot Hot Air

Their feet buried in the hot soil,
But their hearts still love the toil,
Of cutting, and levelling, and cutting and killing,
The one heart that they so desperately need.

They breathed in the unnatural air,
That constricts and hisses at lung's depth,
As their breaths grew shorter, the air got hotter,
And their minds justly got smaller.

Let them lick their own wound I say,
But darling their wounds are on your skin,
Let them be pickled in their own sweat then,
But my love, aren't you drowning in yours?

See how unfair they made it?
Are we not all on the same boat?
It's not your place to boast and gloat,
Stop taking my right for clean air,
And we'll make this just and fair!


How Sadness Works

Let me tell you what grief does to you.

It will be exactly 7 months tomorrow since my mother passed away. I've gotten to know grief quite well know. In fact, to say that grief and I are mere acquaintances will be an understatement.

Grief surprisingly has many facades to it. There's the physical pain; the stomach cramps, the painful heart, the raw nose from too many harsh tissues... and there's also the emotional torture. A maze of unexpected pain that I was (and still am) forced to go through over and over again.

I don't remember the first few days after her death very well. There were faces, sympathetic ones mostly, and tears. The loud sobbing stifled into pillows. I went on autopilot. Emails to be sent out, finances to be secured, aeroplane tickets that need to be changed. I did it all. Braved myself into going on aeroplanes alone. I was surprised at how calm I was. I did not cry everyday. Even when I had to endure the very worst of human nature (...we can't refund you on your Tanzania trip because you knew your mother was sick before you made the bookings.. thank you insurance companies. May you burn in Hell a million times for your kindness) I was fine. Stayed with friends. It was as if nothing happened. Looking back, that was definitely the numb phase. You will become immune to the constant threat of warm tears behind your eyes. As if magic was real, you do not cry, you can suck your tears dry.

When I got home, I busied myself with chores at home and the wedding preparation. Even when I'm sorting my mother's mementos, I did not cry. It wasn't easy though. I was angry. I was disappointed. I was angry at everyone who still had both of their parents. I was angry at everyone who got to have a nice elective. I was angry at everyone who's wedding and graduation pictures have both their parents in them. I was very angry at myself because I was jealous of everyone else's happiness. People were moving on. I was still stuck in March, trying desperately to rewind the days leading up to her death. If they had told me sooner, if I had caught the earlier plane... all the "what ifs" were killing me. Grief was my only friend in those days.

And then I got married to the most wonderful man on earth! Again I did not cry during the wedding (phew!) I am so thankful for that.

So.... seven months down the road..what did I learn?

1. Grief is a surprisingly good wake-up call from God to you. You learn to prioritise. You learn to love in the right order. You learn to depend on Him and Him alone. I am forever grateful that I have been given this call at a young age. My life priorities have definitely changed now.

2. Grieving is very tiring. Very very tiring. The physical pain, the emotional torture..... The most cruel torture grief can throw you, I believe, is the dreams. In a lot of the dreams, she was alive. The conversations were normal, with just a hint of something that was not right. When you wake up though, the first thing you'll realise is.." she's dead. she's dead. She's never coming back" so you have to spend all of your energy trying to convince yourself that your mother is never going back and also to remember every bit of the said dream...only torturing yourself further. I hate them.

3. You can grieve not only for the past..but also for the present and the future. Your wedding..she won't be there. Your graduation... she won't be there. The birth of your first child...she won't be there... The future is tainted. The stain won't go away. That's why grief is my BFF.

4. Sometimes some people have not gone through this type of pain before. Sometimes they seemed insensitive to a grieving person's needs.. I have to be the bigger person and not take their comments to heart.

5. Plans are made to be broken. Stop dwelling.

So that's my little introduction to grief.

Al-Fatihah to my beautiful mother, dearly missed.

Thursday, 25 August 2011

This Steel Feline

This steel feline,
Is waiting in line,
For her tuna in the brine,
And then she will feel fine..


Sunday, 12 June 2011

PIndah Rumah

Okay bye bye blogger, I have really moved to tumblr.

HERE HERE HERE HERE HERE....


xxxxxx